Every Momma has those moments. You know, the proud moments when he uses the potty for the first time or uses his manners and acts appropriately in public. Or the moments when you realize how much they’ve grown and how much time has passed since you held him in your arms to rock him to sleep at night. Yes, those moments are indeed wonderful, but those aren’t the moments I would like to refer to you now.
Yesterday my husband was off from work and I decided to take the opportunity to take a shower (yes, there are days that go by when showers are a mere thought – an unnecessary luxury). So as I’m standing in the hot, steamy shower for more than 10 minutes (yes, you read that right, I took my time and spent more than 10 sweet minutes in the shower) I’m thinking about how little time I now get for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children and I love when Little Man smothers me with snotty kisses or asks sweetly “play toys with me?” but I really needed this time alone. In fact, I heard Little Man running around squealing like a Banshee and Bambino crying in obvious need for attention or a diaper change, and I stayed there as my husband “handled it.” This was my moment. Funny enough, when I finally got out, he felt exhausted and it wasn’t even 12:00pm. And I do this all day every day. Plus laundry, dishes, meals, house work, etc. My husband does a wonderful job but I will admit, it can be a little overwhelming some days.
Mommas, we do so much, running on so little, often times neglecting our own self-being to care for our little ones. Yes, we wouldn’t change anything for the world but some days we just need to relish the moments when we can take time for ourselves. The daddies, nannies, poppies, friends, whomever you place your trust with your little ones can certainly handle taking charge for you to have a moment for yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask for it either. Bask in these moments! Relish them! Eat it up! We need them for our own sanity. Without that 10 minute plus shower or that half hour nap or a trip to the mall all by your sweet self, the mommas that experience life at home with their precious babies 24/7 can experience some serious mommy burnout.
Mommy burnout is a real thing. We love our children so much and they depend on us so much that we cannot afford to neglect our own well-being. Lets face it, there is only so much Dora the Explorer we can handle before we either blow up and bust or find ourselves actually talking back to her. “Watch out! Swiper is right behind you! That sneaky Swiper!” Our children need a functioning, happy caregiver not a zombie dragging themselves around the house running on caffeine and cookies. We should never feel guilty when we take time for ourselves. It doesn’t mean we don’t love spending time with our children or that parenting is too much for us. It means we understand that we need to be healthy in our minds along with everything else in order to properly provide for our children’s needs. Take time to rejuvenate, go ahead and spend an extra 30 minutes at the salon to get your hair washed, dried and styled too. Hold on to those mommy moments before that sneaky burnout creeps in and swipes your sanity.
Take some time for yourselves today mommas!